Tag: writing

Vertigo: A Month Later Learning from defeat


On August 9th the living room would not stop spinning. Lying down, sitting or standing it doesn’t matter. It was as if I’m strapped in a Tilt-a-Whirl. Closing my eyes helps a little. The spinning gets to my stomach but I’m hungry but I don’t want to eat. I feel like throwing up. I double […]

Why Men Don’t Talk A technique to get men to do something amazing


Society has conditioned men to dismiss any and all vulnerabilities. Since men identify vulnerability as a weakness, they often don’t possess the emotional strength to talk about their weaknesses. Male behavior that follows this script appeases societal expectations but how does this silence affect the individual male? The male who returns home from war. The […]

The Man with the Hole in His Brain-Chapter 2


The Man with the Hole in His Brain- Chapter 2 It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred […]

How to Save a Life


Better pass boldly into that other world, in the full glory of some passion, than fade and wither dismally with age.” ― James Joyce, The Dead Five years ago I was farting my way through grad school. The plan was to graduate with a Master’s degree in educational administration and become a principal. I didn’t really want […]

How do people read you?


Show don’t tell is a well-proven writing technique. As Russian writer Anton Chekhov once famously wrote, “Don’t tell me the moon is shining; show me the glint of light on broken glass.” This technique is also applicable to life. It’s easy to tell. Easy to issue orders. Easy to instruct others, inform them what they […]

The Air Max 90 (Or The First Time I Learned About Envy)


This week’s publication is dedicated to my friend and fellow writer Deb Dauer, who recently passed away from complications caused by ALS.  Although my time with Deb was brief, she taught me to live, to write with courage and spirit and that true happiness can only be found in the connections you make.  Thank you […]

I’m now 38 and finally confident enough to admit I’m lost


I turn 38 this week. And with official entrance into the late-thirties rodeo, I’ve finally gained enough confidence to admit –I’m lost. A few weeks ago at a party, I fell into a conversation with a young woman who recently graduated from college.  A mutual friend introduce me as a “writer” and informed me that […]

Nobody Cares and Other Truths I Learned During My Two Years of Writing


This week marks two years of showing up, sitting down and writing–everyday. Some days I pumped out thousands of words. On others, I farted a few foul sentences and went about my day. But such is the writing life. When I first committed to writing, I held a secret position that green writers often hold– […]

The Love Story That Almost Never Happened


The following post is the final entry of the The February Project: Love and Marriage, a self-imposed month long writing project on love and marriage. “After all the romance and celestial promises of the initial courtship, love becomes a lifetime of small moments that add up to make something enormous.” from Taking Notes: A Love Story […]

Using Your Pain to Tell Your Story: When Students Teach Teachers


This week’s post is a slight detour from my month-long research and writing about chronic illness.  Next week will be the final installment on chronic illness. Even though Dina, the girl who always wore sleeves, has been a student in my class since September, I really meet her for the first time last week on a […]