Month: January 2019

I suspect all parents are frauds


This week a student told me I must be the world’s greatest dad. I laughed. “What makes you believe that?” “Because you always seem to have a great answer for every question.” Flattered, sure, but there’s a big difference at being good English teacher and being a parent. Teaching literature and writing is easy.  Parenting […]

Then I heard my dying friend laugh


My friend is dying. It’s stage 4 and spreading. My friend has more bad days than good ones now. Eating is a problem. Showering is a problem. Steps are a big problem. My friend reminds me to kiss my children, eat good food, drink good alcohol, go to concerts and sing and dance and laugh, […]

Making a Change


~ To my friend, who had the courage to make a change  Her change caught everyone by surprise. They thought things were fine. She seemed so happy, so go-lucky. “I’m so surprised,” they said. What they couldn’t see was that deep inside her heart stewed a restlessness that, on certain days, breached the kettle lip […]

Life Favors the Brave


A student writes a fantastic piece of how their grandfather use to take them fishing on summer mornings. How standing on the bank, listening to the lake lap against the shore, under the morning sun they found peace. A peace they could not find anywhere else. Then winter turns and their grandfather dies. They write […]

We Weren’t Meant to Wallow


 ~To a friend who is having a bad day.  Today was bad. Something made you angry or frustrated or upset.  Something made you feel lost or confused or worried. Today, something got the best of you. And when it did– maybe you tightened your jaw. Maybe you balled your fist and seethed. Maybe you slammed […]

Happy Birthday Mom


Today is my mom’s birthday. And because it falls on the edge of the holiday season, her birthday is often less of a spectacle, hastily remembered, and often underappreciated. Which, in a way I guess, makes sense. As a child, like most children, I took mom for granted. I just assumed she would always be […]

A Therapy Story


If you’ve been keeping up this blog you probably know I started Vestibular Rehabilitation Therapy a few weeks ago. VRT is a form of therapy that uses exercise to improve gaze (eye movement) and gait (walking/movement).  My vestibular disorders, which are a result of cerebellar atrophy, vertigo (dizziness) and nystagmus ( involuntary rapid eye movement) […]

10 New Year’s Resolutions for Myself (as a Writer)


I know, I know…four days ago I told you I’m not a big fan of New Year’s resolutions. And I’m still not.  New Year’s resolutions seem cumbersome, unrealistic, and bi-products of a society that loves to tell you how to do you. But today, in a coffee-guzzling attempt to find something meaningful to write, I […]

All this busyness worries me


Saturday night Cindy and I went to our life-long friend’s 40th surprise birthday party. Earlier that day we shuttled our kids from play dates to soccer games. So much of adulthood, of parenting is carting the kids from one place to another. An endless loop of pickups and dropoffs. A mini-van Pro AM.  A frantic […]