Month: September 2019

Perspective: To grow in soul


Perspective: To grow in soul The speaker of Thomas Hardy’s poem “The Man He Killed” is a soldier who recalls killing an enemy soldier and realizes had they met under different circumstances they would probably share a drink and a story or two. The speaker hesitates, repeats himself, talks in circles as he tries to […]

It’s the response that matters


It’s the response thatĀ matters It was a tradition of sorts. In the initial months following my diagnosis, after each doctor’s appointment, I would go to the bar Given my deteriorating health, a few pints, and a plate of fried pickles was not the most constructive response, but sometimes nothing soothes a fractured soul like the […]

What we value = the conflicts we endure


What we value = the conflicts we endure I want to share with you something I recently taught my writing students this week. All conflict, whether personal or societal, is simply a conflict of values. Take me, and most adults for that matter, we value hygiene. We value soap and toothpaste. My 9 year son […]

Meditation for men who don’t own yoga pants


Meditation for men who don’t own yoga pants September doesn’t stop. I told you last week how busy life is right now and how all this busyness has caused a lostness and this lostness makes me feel powerless. Lately, it feels like I’m just riding the September wave, tightening my jaw, gritting my teeth, hoping […]

To be found again


To be found again It’s September 11, 2019 and I’m 39. I’m in my writing room–writing– because that’s what I do and because the last few days have been hard. My children started at a new school. Cindy started a new job. And I am back in the classroom teaching. Our schedules are packed with […]

Happy Diagnosis-versary! Why you should celebrate your worse day


Happy Diagnosis-versary! Why you should celebrate your worst day An MRI on September 4, 2013 revealed my brain damage. If you have been reading write on fight on for awhile you know all about my broken brain and I don’t want to bore you. And if you’re visit me for the first time–what took you […]

Designing an extraordinary life (or what I learned on summer vacation)


Designing an extraordinary life (or what I learned on summer vacation) My summer began with a wedding and ended with a funeral. And life happened between. But isn’t that how life goes? Life is dog-eared, for better or worse, with big moments. Big moments that we cut and paste into a mental a scrap book […]