Category: Micro (life) Lessons

How to Deal with Anything For my friends, two in particular, who are going through real shit today. 


How to Deal with Anything: 1.Make a Declaration You have a Problem. A Problem that has manifested into an uncomfortable truth. When living with an uncomfortable truth– illness, addiction, financial hardship, depression, anxiety, confusion, damaged relationships– the first step is to make a declaration that exposes your wound. I have____________. I am _____________. My relationship […]

Do the heavy lifting first, kid A lesson from my father


Just as we develop our physical muscles through overcoming opposition – such as lifting weights – we develop our character muscles by overcoming challenges and adversity.– Stephen Covey As a teenager, I spent the summers working for my father’s business. Bell Pallet would remove and repair a company’s unwanted pallets for resale. It was dirty, […]

It’s great to hear people sing your praises but…


…don’t allow yourself to be seduced by their songs or soon you’ll be making love to yourself in front of a full-length mirror, in the dark. Be well, Jay

The struggles are real


Daily life is ripe with struggles. The glowing check engine light, the dismissive coworker, slow Wi-Fi, the wavering religious faith, a snarky Facebook comment. Yesterday’s struggles have been replaced with today’s struggles. And today’s struggles will be replaced by tomorrow’s struggles. However, you must learn to separate struggles in two categories: empty and meaningful. Empty […]

About that email no one responded to…


You develop a meaningful idea that excites you. A practical idea with positive benefits. An idea, you’re convinced, people will appreciate and support. So you write an email, send it, and wait. And nothing happens. Nobody replies. Don’t take it personally. Remember, just like you, people are busy. They have they’re own passions and pursuits. […]

Don’t be an indifferent student.


You will not love all of your subjects. You will not love all your teachers. You will question the importance of the subject and it’s significance on your current life, your future life and the world-at-large. In fact, you will rationalize some subjects are pointless and insignificant. You will fall asleep in class. You will […]

Disarm the audience


People often ask how I could teach teenagers. Stereotypes find teenagers to be arrogant, rude, and scary. If I learned anything from performing stand-up comedy it’s to survive on stage, you have to disarm the audience by criticizing yourself and your absurdities. When teaching, I’m quick to poke fun at myself. Self-deprecation is one way to […]

Yelling at the referee


I was the head coach of a boys’ high school varsity soccer team for nine years. In those days, I was quick to yell the referee. Quick to criticize. Quick to question. Quick to verbally announce my presence on the sideline. I felt if my players, the parents, the other coach heard me yelling then […]

The answer is not out there.


Many young people think the answer will be found in a magical land known as out there. They can’t wait to graduate high school, move out of their parent’s house, leave the confines of their hometown behind and get out there. Older now, I realize the answer is not out there. The answer has always […]

I never understood why some coworkers refused to wave or say hello.


A simple greeting is such an easy way to humanize yourself at the workplace. Saying hello costs nothing and requires no commitment. Your greeting could spark a smile, which could lead to a conversation, which could result in a good day at work. Remember– you and your coworkers are in this together. Be well, Jay