Tag: love

Thank you for connecting with me and what we did for my wife on her 40th birthday


Thank you for connecting with me and what we did for my wife on her 40th birthday The last four posts have been hard to write. Yet writing about the death of one of my students has been cathartic. It has helped me to embrace loss, gain perspective, ask big questions, and appreciate the things […]

Leave it to the dead to teach us about living


Leave it to the dead to teach us about living This post is dedicated to JR and LM. Keep fighting kids. It’s worth it. Yesterday, before I received Deb Dauer’s inspirational blog-turned-book, Not Gonna Be a Debbie Downer I highlighted the following sentence in Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius’s journal, Meditations: “The whole of present time […]

A letter to my daughter on her 11th birthday


The following is a letter to my daughter who turned 11 this week. Dear Haley, Happy 11th Birthday! You’re now old enough to know that after all the books, after the classes, after all the stuff– the crib, the bottles, the baby wipe warmer, the jars of mashed apricots, after the advice from your grandparents […]

My Best Dreaming Partner


~This is a new post~ Romantic love is a subject I don’t often write about for the simple reason it makes me uncomfortable. I mean, the men I spend time with simply don’t talk about romantic love. And they certainly don’t write about it. But it’s Valentine’s Day and the love of a woman is […]

Taking Notes: A Love Story


In the spirit of Valentine’s Day–the following story “Taking Notes: A Love Story” was originally published on February 16, 2018 In a world with Nicholas Sparks it’s hard to write something original about love. Love is a well-traveled topic. One, I’m sure, you’ve taken plenty of notes on. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is engraved […]

How to Save a Marriage


In the spirit of Valentine’s Day–the following story was originally published on March 2, 2018 `It was romantic as hell. We were finally alone on the beach house front porch. The sun was rolling away from us and the sky made grand commitments to the pinks and oranges that stroke only finest of summer evenings. My […]

It’s been a tough week ~Taking My Own Advice~


It’s been a tough week. You know–one of those weeks where multiple things break, plans halt and change, arguments ensue, and the shit rises and officially hits the fan. It’s been a week of little frustrations, piling on each other, making one, hot snarling big frustration that stands bow-legged, arms-crossed, and grins six inches from […]

I suspect all parents are frauds


This week a student told me I must be the world’s greatest dad. I laughed. “What makes you believe that?” “Because you always seem to have a great answer for every question.” Flattered, sure, but there’s a big difference at being good English teacher and being a parent. Teaching literature and writing is easy.  Parenting […]

Then I heard my dying friend laugh


My friend is dying. It’s stage 4 and spreading. My friend has more bad days than good ones now. Eating is a problem. Showering is a problem. Steps are a big problem. My friend reminds me to kiss my children, eat good food, drink good alcohol, go to concerts and sing and dance and laugh, […]

It was both funny and painful to watch "Everything hurts."


Three days after the race and Cindy is walking as if she has a pair of wooden legs. “Everything hurts. My legs, my back, my ribs.” I stand at the kitchen sink and watch Cindy open the cabinet, reach for a glass, and wince. She draws a breath. “I should’ve trained for the race.” She […]