Tag: children

When your youngest child learns to ride a bike… Long may you ride, my son


I bet you can tell me when and where you learned to ride a bike. I was 5 and learned in white concrete alley behind our red brick Philadelphia row house. The bike was red with black rubber handle grips and solid plastic wheels. A few days earlier, Dad and I bought the bike from […]

The Great American School Experience: Hide In The Closet, Stay Quiet, and Hope Not To Die


They were still bagging up bodies at Stoneman Douglas High School when my 9 year old daughter told me her plan. “We would hide in the closet.” “Really? That’s all?” “Yes, teacher told us that if there is an intruder we are to hide in the closet and stay quiet.” I didn’t tell her that […]

How to Save a Marriage


The following post is the final entry of the The February Project: Love and Marriage, a self-imposed month long writing project on love and marriage. “After all the romance and celestial promises of the initial courtship, love becomes a lifetime of small moments that add up to make something enormous.” from Taking Notes: A Love Story […]

I don’t think my daughter believes in Santa Claus anymore


Christmas morning is a great moment in parenting history. The excitement. The smiles. Your children jumping and dancing and rejoicing because Santa Claus is real and he was really listening to their wishes and he was really watching as them clean their room, share their toys and muscle down broccoli all year long. There’s wrapping […]

How to Persevere Like a 4 Year Old


Total Read Time: 4 minutes THE MONKEY BARS. The playground’s proving ground. The callouser of hands. The skinner of knees. A horizontal symbol of strength, of perseverance. Conquered by only big kids. On a sun-splashed day, my wife and I take our 3 kids to a local park. When the kids find the playground, our […]

May 22, 2017 (or the day the universe reminded me to get over myself)


Sometimes things happen that convince you there is some large, mysterious power at work, cartwheeling through the cosmos, orchestrating both big and little things, to get your attention, to make you appreciate the brevity of your life. Our youngest son Dylan, who is almost 4, has his own bed. It’s a perfectly good bed dressed with a […]

The S Word- by Mark Roeder (Guest Post)


Meet Mark Roeder… Hi everyone, my name is Mark Roeder. I work full time as a Project Manager in Washington DC for a DoD contractor after 10 years active duty in the Navy, living in the Virginia Beach area. My family is the most important thing to me and I spend all of my spare […]

Defining Fatherhood: A Letter to My Daughter on Her 9th Birthday


Dear Haley, It’s incredible. It really is. 9 years ago, a nurse loaded you and your mom into the back seat of our silver Chevy Malibu, shut the door, stepped back, offered a smile and suddenly our lives began together. Surprisingly, sometimes life is that cut and dry. One day you’re curled inside your mother and […]

The Awkward Dance of Parenting


Maybe the key to good parenting is knowing when to get the hell out of your child’s way. I bought her flowers. I complimented the elegance of her dress, the loose curls in her hair. I made her laugh and held her hand as we posed for pictures. I escorted her to the car, opened the […]

Bowling with God (or a curious conversation with my son about death)


When I grow up I still want to see the world through childish eyes. A few days after writing Advice from the Dead, Chase and I were in the car together. I’m driving, he’s tucked in the backseat and it’s raining. Of course it’s raining. Stories like this are almost always punctuated by weather. With the […]