Tag: vulnerability

The small moments have been the hardest The vertigo has been in my brain for 5 weeks


I’m lying on my back on the floor, staring at the ceiling, and I’m afraid to move. The vertigo has been in my brain for 5 weeks. And though symptoms have subsided enough for me to function, I still feel like I’m falling off a cliff every time I sit up or roll to my […]

“Dad, why does summer go so fast?” ...and then there was 7 days of summer left


My 10 year old daughter, Haley, looks up from her iPad, sighs, and asks, “Dad, why does summer go so fast?” I laugh and say, ” Sweetie, I’ve been try to figure that out my whole life.” Maybe I’m getting older, but summer seems to pass quicker each year. If you’re like me, you started […]

Why is it so damn hard to take your own advice?


As a teacher, writer, and speaker I give advice. I offer students, readers, and listeners with solutions to the pickles of life. For the past 8 weeks I’ve been training to run a 5k in September. I’ve been telling you that if I overcome my sarcoidosis and brain damage you can certainly overcome your problems. […]

Why Men Don’t Talk A technique to get men to do something amazing


Society has conditioned men to dismiss any and all vulnerabilities. Since men identify vulnerability as a weakness, they often don’t possess the emotional strength to talk about their weaknesses. Male behavior that follows this script appeases societal expectations but how does this silence affect the individual male? The male who returns home from war. The […]

Do the heavy lifting first, kid A lesson from my father


Just as we develop our physical muscles through overcoming opposition – such as lifting weights – we develop our character muscles by overcoming challenges and adversity.– Stephen Covey As a teenager, I spent the summers working for my father’s business. Bell Pallet would remove and repair a company’s unwanted pallets for resale. It was dirty, […]

Telling the truth with The Breakfast Club


The seminal scene in The Breakfast Club occurs when the five students are sitting in a loose circle sharing the truths of their lives. For the first time in the film, each character exhibits the courage to be vulnerable and truthful with their peers, with themselves. And for that, each character matures and becomes a better […]

Nobody Cares and Other Truths I Learned During My Two Years of Writing


This week marks two years of showing up, sitting down and writing–everyday. Some days I pumped out thousands of words. On others, I farted a few foul sentences and went about my day. But such is the writing life. When I first committed to writing, I held a secret position that green writers often hold– […]

How To Get Men To Talk About Their Chronic Illness


The following post is part of the The January Project: Chronic Illness. A month long project where I research and write about chronic illness.  The information presented in this project is intended for educational purposes only. I am not a doctor. I am a teacher and writer who, while being afflicted with two chronic illnesses, is trying […]

The Strength in Weakness- Student Voices (Guest Post)


Vulnerable and powerful, The Strength in Weakness is an unflinching personal narrative written by one of my female students about her dangerous attempts to achieve the physical perfection.  In the age of social media, the social pressures to conform to conventional notions of beauty are dangerously high for teenagers, especially for females.  The Strength in […]

What You Need To Know About Men Who Have A Chronic Illness And The Shame They Feel  


The following post is part of the The January Project: Chronic Illness. A month long project where I research and write about chronic illness.  The information presented in this project is intended for educational purposes only. My hope is to increase awareness to help those living with chronic illness and to offer clarification to anyone […]