Tag: vulnerability

To be found again


To be found again It’s September 11, 2019 and I’m 39. I’m in my writing room–writing– because that’s what I do and because the last few days have been hard. My children started at a new school. Cindy started a new job. And I am back in the classroom teaching. Our schedules are packed with […]

50 things (we hope) our children learned this summer


50 things (we hope) our children learned this summer Cindy and I are not the “Parents of the Year.”  We are just as confused, distracted, overwhelmed, stressed as other parents.  Most days we parent on a wing and a prayer and a beer. Most days we are frauds. Some days our children don’t shower. Some […]

My friend is dead but I’m bring her back to life (or Voodoo)


My friend is dead but I’m bringing her back to life (or Voodoo) For Susan Parker–“Slow down, you crazy child…” And thanks for “fucking” loving me.  On Saturday, a former student emailed me at 2 am to say she’s leaving for Colorado State University in a few hours and can’t find her Creative Writing final, […]

The 100% Lie


The 100% Lie Perhaps the greatest lie of the 21st century is: If you just drink this drink, take this pill, buy this car then you will feel great. Ingest this, buy that and all your aches, pains, sufferings as well as– your failures, regrets, worries, and burdens will magically melt away and you will […]

Book Update: The Specialness that Young Men Crave


Book Update: The Specialness that Young Men Crave I’m writing a book for young men about young men and their mental health. The working title is “Why are the Suburban Boys Killing Themselves?” The book was inspired by the life and death of one of my students and the growing mental health crisis facing young […]

Goodbye Room A-205


Goodbye Room A-205 For the past 13 years Room A-205 has been my classroom. However, due to some logistical changes coming next school year, I accepted to move to a new classroom. I’m just down the hall but as my long-time hallway neighbor joked, “it’s like being a thousand miles away.” A-205 was the first […]

I’m excited to announce…


I’m proud to announce… I’m writing a book. The validation I’ve been desperately seeking for years came twice last week. First, in a heartfelt message, a reader explained how my writing resonates with them and their struggles and that they would be first in line to buy my book… whenever I wrote it. That turned […]

How do you know if there’s a toxic person in your life?


I was recently asked, “How do you know if there’s a toxic person in your life?” It’s a really good question. Because we all have a toxic person in our life who, though we may love them or have an attachment to them, they frustrate and anger us. They make us feel inadequate or unwanted. […]

How to Overcome Anything


How to Overcome Anything For the past two weeks I received messages about how either you or a loved one is struggling. Heavy stuff: Depression. Addiction. Anxiety. Chronic illness. Suicidal thoughts. You have reached out and said that this blog has comforted you or helped you. Honestly…I don’t know what to say. I mean, if […]

Thank you for connecting with me and what we did for my wife on her 40th birthday


Thank you for connecting with me and what we did for my wife on her 40th birthday The last four posts have been hard to write. Yet writing about the death of one of my students has been cathartic. It has helped me to embrace loss, gain perspective, ask big questions, and appreciate the things […]