Tag: personal growth

How to Save a Marriage


In the spirit of Valentine’s Day–the following story was originally published on March 2, 2018 `It was romantic as hell. We were finally alone on the beach house front porch. The sun was rolling away from us and the sky made grand commitments to the pinks and oranges that stroke only finest of summer evenings. My […]

Why Problems are Special Opportunities


Four weeks into VRT (Vestibular Rehabilitation Therapy) and I’m coming along– one step at a time. My physical therapist and I agreed that I’m at 75%. Meaning another 25% and we both feel I’ll be able to start to run again. In a weird, frustrating, and fascinating way devoting my summer to learning how to […]

Then I heard my dying friend laugh


My friend is dying. It’s stage 4 and spreading. My friend has more bad days than good ones now. Eating is a problem. Showering is a problem. Steps are a big problem. My friend reminds me to kiss my children, eat good food, drink good alcohol, go to concerts and sing and dance and laugh, […]

Happy Birthday Mom


Today is my mom’s birthday. And because it falls on the edge of the holiday season, her birthday is often less of a spectacle, hastily remembered, and often underappreciated. Which, in a way I guess, makes sense. As a child, like most children, I took mom for granted. I just assumed she would always be […]

A Therapy Story


If you’ve been keeping up this blog you probably know I started Vestibular Rehabilitation Therapy a few weeks ago. VRT is a form of therapy that uses exercise to improve gaze (eye movement) and gait (walking/movement).  My vestibular disorders, which are a result of cerebellar atrophy, vertigo (dizziness) and nystagmus ( involuntary rapid eye movement) […]

10 New Year’s Resolutions for Myself (as a Writer)


I know, I know…four days ago I told you I’m not a big fan of New Year’s resolutions. And I’m still not.  New Year’s resolutions seem cumbersome, unrealistic, and bi-products of a society that loves to tell you how to do you. But today, in a coffee-guzzling attempt to find something meaningful to write, I […]

All this busyness worries me


Saturday night Cindy and I went to our life-long friend’s 40th surprise birthday party. Earlier that day we shuttled our kids from play dates to soccer games. So much of adulthood, of parenting is carting the kids from one place to another. An endless loop of pickups and dropoffs. A mini-van Pro AM.  A frantic […]

My one word New Year’s resolution


I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions. They feel cheap. More commercial then practical. Like something you buy in a gift shop. But today I did see #oneword2019 trending on Twitter, where you choose one word to focus on throughout the year. Words like “relationships” or “smile.” And I thought this might be a simple […]

Wish me luck…


On Friday, December 28th I begin vestibular rehabilatation therapy again. My first experience with VRT was in the winter of 2014 at the St. Lawrence Rehabilitation Center. The physical goals this time are: to improve balance to improve motor skills strengthen core muscles strengthen legs prepare my body to run again The emotional goals are: […]

Our children need gardeners not gods.


As parents, it’s our fundamental responsibility to recognize that our young children see us as gods. This declaration unnerves me. My three children are under under 10.  In their eyes I’m a flawless, precise, all-powerful, all-knowing god.  I am the law. The 10 commandments of suburbia.  My words are gospel. And when I shake my […]