Tag: life lessons

How do people read you?


Show don’t tell is a well-proven writing technique. As Russian writer Anton Chekhov once famously wrote, “Don’t tell me the moon is shining; show me the glint of light on broken glass.” This technique is also applicable to life. It’s easy to tell. Easy to issue orders. Easy to instruct others, inform them what they […]

It’s National Decision Day


May 1st is National Decision Day, the deadline for high school seniors to decide which school they will attend in the fall. For college-bound seniors this is an important day. It represents the first of many, many major choices and changes they will experience as an adult. But for those of who are older, whose […]

These are better days What is the one thing you can do right now to find happiness?


Originally published on April 30, 2018 “Better Days” is one of Bruce Springsteen’s most underrated songs. At the beginning of the song, Springsteen sings about “sitting around” and “waiting for life to beginning.” A position I’m sure we’re both  familiar with. Yet as the song continues, a rock transformation happens. He acknowledges that every “fool’s […]

Saturdays are for seizing


Someone once told me Saturdays are for sleeping. At 22 I agreed. At 38,  I couldn’t disagree more. You aren’t going to work. You aren’t going to school. You have a few errands to do. Maybe your children have soccer games this afternoon. Besides that, Saturdays are for seizing. For seizing all the reading, writing, […]

The smartest student I ever taught was also the dumbest


This is a Micro (life) Lesson. Micro (life) Lessons are simple, compressed stories (under 250 words) that, like good teachers, continue to teach long after graduation. If you are the smartest person in the room, then you are in the wrong room. – Confucius I once taught a student who turned down scholarships from several […]

When Your Child Realizes How Cruel The World Can Be


Hours before my daughter’s 10th birthday I committed murder. Call me heartless, call me a bastard but since I don’t own a gun or crossbow–I did it with a hammer. Trust me, I didn’t want to do it. But, as life teaches, sometimes you have to do things you never thought you would do. I […]

The Air Max 90 (Or The First Time I Learned About Envy)


This week’s publication is dedicated to my friend and fellow writer Deb Dauer, who recently passed away from complications caused by ALS.  Although my time with Deb was brief, she taught me to live, to write with courage and spirit and that true happiness can only be found in the connections you make.  Thank you […]

I’m now 38 and finally confident enough to admit I’m lost


I turn 38 this week. And with official entrance into the late-thirties rodeo, I’ve finally gained enough confidence to admit –I’m lost. A few weeks ago at a party, I fell into a conversation with a young woman who recently graduated from college.  A mutual friend introduce me as a “writer” and informed me that […]

How to Cross a Threshold


If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.–Marcus Aurelius I saw my neurologist today. After reviewing a recent MRI of my brain, he informed me that the deterioration that plagued […]

Celebrating Victory with the Living (and the Dead)


On Superbowl morning I went to Forest Hills Cemertary wearing my Eagles jersey. It’s February in Philadelphia and it’s cold and raining and my son is standing by my side and we’re looking down at the plaque marking the birth and death of my grandparents. Mike and Doreen. I tell them about how the Eagles […]