Tag: advice

We Weren’t Meant to Wallow


 ~To a friend who is having a bad day.  Today was bad. Something made you angry or frustrated or upset.  Something made you feel lost or confused or worried. Today, something got the best of you. And when it did– maybe you tightened your jaw. Maybe you balled your fist and seethed. Maybe you slammed […]

10 New Year’s Resolutions for Myself (as a Writer)


I know, I know…four days ago I told you I’m not a big fan of New Year’s resolutions. And I’m still not.  New Year’s resolutions seem cumbersome, unrealistic, and bi-products of a society that loves to tell you how to do you. But today, in a coffee-guzzling attempt to find something meaningful to write, I […]

All this busyness worries me


Saturday night Cindy and I went to our life-long friend’s 40th surprise birthday party. Earlier that day we shuttled our kids from play dates to soccer games. So much of adulthood, of parenting is carting the kids from one place to another. An endless loop of pickups and dropoffs. A mini-van Pro AM.  A frantic […]

My one word New Year’s resolution


I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions. They feel cheap. More commercial then practical. Like something you buy in a gift shop. But today I did see #oneword2019 trending on Twitter, where you choose one word to focus on throughout the year. Words like “relationships” or “smile.” And I thought this might be a simple […]

Health Update#3: I’m still doing okay.


Health Update #3 In every situation, life is asking us a question, and our actions are the answer. Our job is simply to answer well. ~ Ryan Holiday People have been asking how I’m feeling lately. So here we go: I’m doing okay. I get it, “I’m doing okay” is the response I gave you […]

I’m watching It’s a Wonderful Life with my son…


I’m watching It’s a Wonderful Life with my son, Chase, when in between handfuls of popcorn he asks two questions: Why did people back then only see in black and white? Why did George want to jump off the bridge? Question one was easy to answer but difficult for my 8 year my son to understand. […]

This is How We Survive.


This is How We Survive. I’ve been both fascinated and terrified by the California wildfires. Two separate wildfires that have consumed an area as big as 16 Manhattans. The devastation is catastrophic. As of this post, 48 people have died. Hundreds of homes destroyed. Entire towns where people laughed and fell in love and made […]

The evening news is killing me.


California is still burning. Florida is still deciding The Mexicans are still hiding. And wherever you go to worship, a synagogue or a bar, you better look over your shoulder and know your exits. After being pummeled by the evening news this past week, I found it hard to hope. I mean, it seemed every […]

I’m hungover.


I’m hungover. Except I haven’t had a drink almost 3 months. My head is pounding and I’m dizzy and nauseous as if it was 1999 and last night I chased a bottle of strawberry Boone’s Farm with 10 Natty Lights. I stagger to the shower. Shower. Towel off. Get changed. Get coffee, started feeling sorry […]

26 things I tell myself when I’m struggling


            To my friend, who thinks no one understands…we understand. “This too shall pass.” (King Solomon) “There bad moments. But there are no bad days.” “Beyond this mountain is another mountain.” (Haitian Proverb) “Sometimes it’s okay to be selfish.” “Somewhere, someone has endured much worse.” “Look hard enough until you […]