How do people read you?
Show don’t tell is a well-proven writing technique.
As Russian writer Anton Chekhov once famously wrote, “Don’t tell me the moon is shining; show me the glint of light on broken glass.”
This technique is also applicable to life.
It’s easy to tell. Easy to issue orders. Easy to instruct others, inform them what they should do.
The older, softer we get the more telling we do. We tell our children, our spouse, the new guy in the office what they should do, how they should act.
Consequently, simply telling people how to do things inspires resentment. Genuine trust is built on honesty and meaningful actions.
If you want to know how you’re read, consider the actions you’re showing your readers.